There is no single formula to creating the best possible “you”. However, your ability to create the best version of yourself starts at the same source: from within yourself. Here are 4 signs you’re on the right track:
1. You take responsibility for all that is yours — regardless of whose fault it may be.
Author Hal Elrod once said, “The moment you accept total responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life is the day you claim the power to change ANYTHING in your life.”
No matter what happens in your life, for every situation that you’re involved in, you play a role in causing the outcome.
For example, being late to a meeting or work because of traffic is your responsibility. Sure, you didn’t create the traffic jam, but you are responsible for your time and your response to the situation.
Hence, Lou Holtz has said, “Life is 10 percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.”
2. You don’t seek what you want, you create it.
Chris Grosser has a quote that says, “Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.” Dan Sullivan similarly said: “Luck and God favor those with good habits.”
In other words, things don’t happen by chance, they happen by cause and effect.
Getting the things you want doesn’t come by waiting, but by going after it. It’s your daily habits that attract what you get in this life. As Ayodeji Awosika once wrote,
“When you show up and keep putting your work out there, good things start to happen. You make new connections, people reach out to you, opportunities start to present themselves.”
3. You quiet the voice in your head that insists you’re always wrong.
In his book, The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz writes, “Disbelief is a negative power. When the mind disbelieves or doubts, the mind attracts reasons to support the disbelief.”
What you sow is what you reap. According to the National Science Foundation, the average person has between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are just the same repetitive thoughts they had yesterday.
If you’re someone who’s moving forward in life, your thoughts will not be the same as they were yesterday. Instead, they are continually growing, changing and expanding.
So, don’t cling onto or be weighted-down by negative thoughts; just get rid of them!
4. You’re straight-up with your communication, regardless of how it may be perceived.
Sitting on the fence, lying or stretching the facts are all forms of fabrication and it’s hard to create genuine relationships when the words that come from your mouth are facades of the truth.
Many times, it’s best to just speak the truth and get it out there. People will think what they want to think. Feel how they want to feel and assign whatever meaning they want the words you give across.
However, you can do your best at giving open and honest communication.